How Connecting to Your Higher Self Can Shift You From Fear to Love?

Higher Self can be called with different names

What Is Higher Self?

Higher Self is the invisible force we all are born with.

You have access to it all the time to guide you in the right direction.

It is a space of unconditional love and peace and a place where all answers to your questions and solutions to your problems reside.

You can call it by different names be it God, Soul, Source, Intuition, Inner Voice, the Universe, Six Sense, your Heart’s voice, or Gut feeling. I will be using different names throughout this blog.

You Have Got 2 Voices in Your Head All Times

Have you ever realized it?

You just thought to do something new (for e.g applying for a job, saying No, taking on a new hobby, etc), you have 2 voices in your head, one is trying to stop you from doing the right thing and the other one is forcing you to do it. You are confused about what voice to follow?

2 Voices in your head

Let me tell you that you are always going to have 2 voices in your head at all times, no matter where you are, who you are with, what you are doing, etc.

One voice is Fear that’s your mind’s voice or Ego and the other one is Love/Faith that’s your Higher Self.

The voice you feed the most is going to make decisions for you and shape your life.

It is up to you what kind of life you want – full of regrets or full of love, gratitude, abundance, and prosperity.

Were You Born With a Fearful Voice?

New born baby doesn't have fear but love instead
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No one was born with fear. You are born with love.

Do you have any childhood memories about everything you did you wanted to do without any fear of anything and anyone?

  • You didn’t know what you could and couldn’t do.
  • You fall down and get up over and over again.
  • You were doing everything out of love.

When you grow a little bit older, everybody starts telling you what you should do and shouldn’t.

You started living in fear and lost your connection with your intuition and you wonder why your life is not working.

How to Differentiate Fearful Voice From Higher Self’s Voice?

What is Higher Self' voice?

Your Higher Self knows what is right for you yet it doesn’t know the outcome. One thing is for sure, In the long term, your life will not be the same again. It will be full of love, abundance, prosperity, and everything you desire for.

You can listen to your Higher Self in silence. 

The time you are connected to your Source, there will be no anger, frustration, sadness, anxiety, depression, ego, judgment, jealousy, comparison, competition, suicidal thoughts, self-hatred, guilt, resentment, criticism, war, and stress.

A fearful voice is all about making excuses. Your mind is wired in such a way that it is afraid of the unknown. Fear means anger, frustration, sadness, anxiety, depression, ego, judgment, etc.

Let me share a few of the scenarios below to understand the difference clearly.

Scenario 1

You have an inner knowing that you need to start writing. No matter if you get any followers or comments or not. If people are going to read your work or not. It knows that in the long term, it is worth it.

You love to write but afraid of rejections and fear of losing your loved ones
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You just start thinking to write, your mind comes up with What if and But reasons:

  • What if people don’t like my writings?
  • What if people make fun of me?
  • But I don’t know how to write in a professional way.
  • But I am not good at English.
  • But I don’t have a good network.
  • But I have no time to do it.
  • But I don’t have any knowledge about using social media.
  • But I am too lazy.

And the excuses list is never going to end.

Scenario 2

Job Change

Though you know very well you must leave your current job for whatever the reason might be (You don’t enjoy doing or it is not paying you well, you won’t be able to clear your debt, etc), you allow your fears to take over:

  • What if my resume won’t get shortlisted?
  • But after I wrote my letter of resignation, I won’t get paid for 2 months. How will I pay rent and manage other expenses?
  • But I don’t have enough time for making a resume or prepare for the interview.
  • What if I get rejection after rejection and didn’t get a job.
  • But I have no work experience in the skill.
  • What if I have to relocate?
  • What if I won’t be able to clear the interview?

And the list goes on and on.

Scenario 3

You are in a toxic relationship. You know deep down inside that you need to leave that person. You are not leaving and trying to force things by manipulating yourself and expecting one day everything will be okay.

Toxic Relationship makes your life worse , but when you don't listen to the universe you suffer

The more you expect the situation to get changed, the worse it is going to get.

There might be different kinds of reasons that are stopping you from the making the right choice:

  • Your parents don’t want to support you and are worried about society’s opinions about you.
  • Your parents have taught you to adjust and not to leave the person no matter what.
  • You have children and you can’t leave the person.
  • Your husband is not ready to give you a divorce and blackmail you not going to court.
  • You are not financially independent and can’t take a step for yourself.
  • You are afraid that if you leave this person what if you won’t get someone else.

or whatever the reason might be.

Scenario 4

You know you are good at singing. No one can sing the way you sing. You want to explore the world of singing and composing your own music.

You love singing but not going for it because you are afraid of other people's opinions about you

You know what you are going to do is going to make you the happiest in your life, but you fear:

  • What will my friends, neighbors, relatives, and parents think of me?
  • But I don’t have enough money to release my songs.
  • What if my parents leave me because they don’t want me to go into the Singing profession.
  • What if I couldn’t make it?

If you are going to listen to the fearful voice in your head, it is going to paralyze you. You probably are going to get into depression and regret it on your deathbed. And if you take some courage to shut down your ego’s voice and listen to your heart, your life is going to change and you are going to love it.

Why Is It Important to Follow Your Higher Self?

Why do you need to listen to your Higher Self?
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Maybe you have felt in your life that your life is not working the way you want it to and your life is miserable, be it your relationship is not working or you lost your job and you are in debt, or for whatever purpose. It is a sign that you lost your connection with your Source.

If you really want to make your life work, you had better allow your Higher Self to guide you in every area of your life.

Put your ego aside and faith first, and follow your Higher Self. The more you follow it and take action, the better your life is going to be.

You are going to get guidance in different ways. Be it you come across any book, article, video, person, training class, etc.

Let your faith be bigger than your fear.


How to Strengthen Your Relationship With Your Higher Self?

Fear weakens your relationship with your Higher Self and you won’t be able to do the right thing you are here to do on the planet.

How to connect to your Higher Self when your life is based on Fear?
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Whenever you are connected to your Higher Self, you feel inner silence.

And you find all the answers you have been looking out for.

With God all things are possible.


Let’s talk about a few ways to strengthen your relationship with your Higher Self.

Daily Prayer

Prayer means Surrendering yourself to the universe.

It doesn’t mean, “Please God give me this, give me that.” God knows you better. It means you are helpless and don’t know what to do and where to go.

You ask for the right direction and you get it. You just have to have faith to listen to God.

Prayer is so powerful tool to connect to your Higher Self
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Open your heart and invite God in every circumstance, because when God enters the scene, miracles happen.

Victoria Osteen

Listening to or Reciting Hymns

Have you ever felt a deep connection with your Higher Self? Later you realized you were listening to hymns.

Listening to Hymns help you to connect to your Higher Self

I always feel deep gratitude. I realized my life is not the same way it was a few years back. Who I am today is because of God. I am nothing without God and everything with God.

You never know if you can find answers when you listen or recite hymns.


The more you love yourself, the more you feel connected to your Higher Self. You allow it to guide you in every area of your life.

Self-Love is the powerful tool it allows you to connect to your Higher Self by doing things you need to do.
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Read our previous blog on Self-Love to know more.


Meditation is a powerful way to access your Higher Self. It helps you to slow down and see what is there in your mind you need to know. You reach the stage where you are in complete silence and can find answers to any question and solutions to any problem.

Meditation is another tool to slow down where you can access to your Higher Self to guide you in you life.

There are different kinds of Meditations out there. Check them here.

I meditate for half an hour, sometimes an hour. I always ask questions, “Please Universe tell me what you want me to know right away.” “How may I serve you today?” After some time, answers appear without me making an effort.

Writing in a Journal

Writing in a journal to clear your mind to reach the state of calmness to access your Higher Self
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If you have a habit to write in a journal. Congratulations. This is the best way to let go of everything troubling you such as anxiety, anger, judgemental thoughts, etc by writing them down on paper.

by doing this activity you actually clear your mind and are at peace. That’s a state where you can see things clearly and do the right thing instead of reacting and making the wrong decision and regret later.

Doing What Makes You Happy

The more you do what makes you happy. Be it dancing, singing, coaching, drawing, taking on a new hobby, exercising, gardening, talking to a friend or family, etc. The more you feel good about yourself and strengthen your connection with your intuition and fear will leave you.

Doing things you love to do strengthen your relationship with your Higher Self

Maybe you think you don’t have time to do the things that make you happy. It means your ego is telling you not to connect to your Higher Self.

By the way, everyone has an equal amount of time i.e 24 hours. It is all about setting priorities.

What is bad for your ego, good for your soul.

Robins Sharma

Walking in Nature

In today’s busy world, we lost our connection with nature and are stuck in our rooms.

Take some time every day to walk in nature and realize how easy it is for you to come back home (Higher Self).

Walking in Nature can calm you down and allow you to connect to your Higher Self

Go and just sit down and look at everything around you – birds, trees, clouds, the sky full of stars, sun, moon, close your eyes and feel the wind touching your body. It will help you to be in the present moment where you can listen to your Source.


Laughter is a great way to connect to your Higher Self. Whenever you laugh, your mind becomes calm. All answers and solutions come from silence.

Laughter is a medicine to get out of stress and connect to your Higher Self

Do you remember your childhood days?

  • How frequently did you laugh?
  • You were happy all time.

How much do you laugh today? – not even for an hour let alone the whole day.

Before you even think to laugh, what comes to your mind? “Why are you laughing like this? You are not a kid.

Stop living your life on society’s terms. Society teaches you to fear.

You can watch any comedy series or can join Laughter clubs nearby you or spend time with kids and family.


Do you focus on what you don’t have and complain or do you focus on what you have and feel grateful for?

Gratitude can change everything in your life you are worried about today.

A grateful heart is a magnet for Miracles

A grateful heart is a magnet for Miracles

You can check out Gratitude: A Way of Life by Louise Hay

And The Magic by Rhonda Byrne to know more about the power of Gratitude

Being grateful for everything you have and you are going to have, your life becomes a source of miracles you have never imagined in your life.


Trust Your Vibes Book

A few years back, I found Trust Your Vibes book in the library at work written by Sonia Choquette. She has shared 33 secrets to connecting to your Higher Self. It really strengthened my connection with my higher self.

If you find any other ways to connect to your higher self, feel free to share in the comments section.

My Life Experiences

I would love to share a few of my life experiences with you to realize how powerful your Intuition aka Higher Self is if you just allow it to guide you.

The Consequences After I Ignored My Higher Self

Getting off the Bus at the Wrong Place

This is what happens when you ignore your Higher Self

It has been years since I have been staying in Bangalore. In the beginning, I wasn’t familiar with any place here. I use Google Maps sometimes.

I don’t remember where I was coming from. The bus stops at the bus stop, I didn’t get off.

I got off 2 km away from my place. I went home on foot. After I got home, I regretted not listening to the guidance.

I Didn’t Ask Questions I Wanted To

I didn't ask questions when my Higher Self asked me to ask and I regretted later
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A few years ago, There was a 2 or 3 days seminar on Entrepreneurship at my college. I have got a few questions about Entrepreneurship and I thought, “Maybe my questions are not relevant and other people might make fun of me.” After I came back home, I felt guilty about myself and criticized myself.

Getting Into a Network Marketing Business

Network Marketing Business

I believe in 2018, I got into the network marketing business thinking I will buy a good camera to start pursuing my photography hobby. 

My parents told me how bad the consequences will be if I am going to join that business. I didn’t listen to them and in 6 months I lost all money I had. I had nothing in my pocket and I was showing off that I am a millionaire.

I left everything I was doing – Meditation, Worship, Exercise, Reading books. My day starts and ends with WhatsApp. 

The business was about making money by making other people emotionally fool and I am not that kind of person. Dishonesty is not in my blood. And I was manipulating myself to get proposals and losing my identity of being honest there every day.

I left that business after 6 months not because I couldn’t make money, but because I couldn’t live someone’s life.

Not Applying for a Job

I didn't listen to my Higher Self and didn't apply for a job

As I have mentioned above, how in 6 months, I lost every penny I had and I was in debt. I was in depression and was worried, “What If I won’t be able to clear loans and return everyone’s money back I have taken to pay PG rent, etc.”

I knew that I have no choice except for applying for a new job. and I was doing nothing except watching movies.

How My Higher Self Guidance Changed My Life

Singing a Song at My Seniors’ Farewell Party

I am singing at college after fighting between my Higher Self and mind
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In 2015, it was a farewell party and I planned to sing a song.

I was sitting in the audience and I was having a huge fight between my heart and mind.

My mind was making excuses:

  • What if your friends make fun of you?
  • What If you forget the song there?
  • What If your voice goes numb?

And my heart was asking, “Do you want to change or not?” and my answer was “Yes”.

It was really hard for me to listen to my heart, but I did it anyway.

And here I am more confident who won over fear.

30 Days Challenge by Tim Han

Higher Self allowed me to take 30 days challenge and I was completely a different person after completing them

In July 2017, 30-day Secret Challenges were conducted by Tim Han. I wanted to take it.

Again there was a fight in my head between Ego and Intuition.

My Ego came up with a list of reasons why I shouldn’t go for it:

  • Hey are you mad or what? What if your parents see you go live on Facebook?
  • What if other people make fun of you?

I pushed myself hard and registered for 30-day challenges. I was a completely different person after the 30th day.

My Writing Journey on Instagram

My Instagram journey was so hard because my mind tried to stop me from following my Higher Self

On 31st December 2017, Everyone at my PG was celebrating the new year, and I was sitting in my room and crying. I have got vibes, “Hey Sarbjeet, please start writing. This world really needs you.”

Again a fearful voice came up with excuses why I shouldn’t start:

  • Are you mad or what?
  • What other people will think of you that you were in depression and wanted to die?
  • Who is going to read your stuff?

I was literally crying and wanted to follow my heart. After a lot of fighting between my mind and heart, I listened to my heart.
And today here I am. I not only write on Instagram, but on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Sheroes, and started my own blog also. People started contacting me on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube and telling me how my work is changing their lives.

I do coach people as well and people I worked with me have a different life today than a few years back when they were in depression and hated themselves and their life.

A few of them have written testimonials as well. You can check them on my About page.

Saving Myself From Writing a Resignation Letter

By following my Higher Self I saved myself from writing a resignation letter

There are 2 incidents in my life where I did my best to run from a problem. I wanted to write a resignation letter. I was guided not to make the wrong choice.

Incident 1

I was in debt and didn’t know what to do to clear all of them. I was really frustrated and wanted to quit my job. One day I was having my lunch, and suddenly I met someone in the cafe. I started talking to him and told him about how my life was going.

He asked, “Do you have any job offers in your hands?”

Me: “No, I don’t.”

He said, “Don’t make this mistake by quitting your job. Get a job first and then resign.”

I am grateful to him for saving me from making the wrong choice.

Incident 2

In my current organization, in March 2021, I was chosen as a lead. On the very first day, I was very stressed out that My mind was forcing me to put down papers.

After a few days, I called my ex-manager aka my best buddy and he said to me, “Sarbjeet, it is no use running from a problem. The more you run from them, the worse you will be at solving them. You will be good at your current role with time.” I listened to him and never looked back. Today I am very comfortable in this role.

Changing My Beliefs About Getting a New Job

Once I released my limiting patterns about a new job, I got it.
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I was looking for a job change and wasn’t getting one.

I would get rejection after rejection and the reason was self-rejection. I didn’t realize it until I sat down with myself and ask myself questions.

One day I sat down with myself and started writing about the patterns I had about the job that were causing me rejections. 

After I released all those patterns, I started preparing for the interview. I got an offer within 2 weeks.

Being Guided at Work

I was being guided at work since I started listening to my Higher Self

For years I would run from problems.

Now I am solution-oriented. At any time, if I am not sure what to do about the problem. I always use the beautiful prayer I have learned from Dr. Wayne Dyer, “Please God help me. I have tried everything, and nothing worked, Now I try you”.

You will be amazed after a few minutes or hours, I get answers to all problems at work.


Let your Higher Self guide you to make every small choice in your life. It will never go wrong and You will never regret it. It can fill your life with everything you dreamt of.

and this world will be free from diseases, wars, and crimes happening every day and it will be full of love, kindness, compassion, and forgiveness, and will be a safe place to live.

Thanks so much for your valuable time and I believe you enjoyed this blog and found it beneficial. Hit the share button to share this with your friends. 

Feel free to share your experiences about how listening to your Higher Self changed the way you look at life. I look forward to hearing from you.

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